Tuesday, October 24, 2006
Married to Being Single?
You know, the idea that one, single, solitary, individual was put on Earth just to lead you into a love fantasy that ends in "...and they lived happily ever after."
And as I watch you jump to the judgemental conclusion of "embittered cynic" like a game of hopscotch, I request that you continue reading.
What I presently believe (you can thank my father for this one) is that there are MANY compatibles roaming the Earth that could do just that. It's just a matter of timing and choice.
Brother Airbender and I were swapping ideas around this "The One" theory sometime last year.
Me and Ricksss give each other that "Uh oh...here we go" glance as he sits down and asks what we're talking about.
I give him the bullet points of the conversation, and he's like "Oh I see. Interesting."
In that, "Well..???" tone, I asked him, "So what are your thoughts?"
That's when he broke it down like Fatman Scoop on a barstool. He shared that he thought that life has more than one "The Ones" floating around in it.
I was put off at first. Going off in my head like, "That's such a typical man-whore perspective."
But he continued...
Both us were like "Hmmmm...."
I don't know about Ricksss, but it made sense to me!
It all comes back to choice at the end of the day.
Alex G: *singing* "Do you want to float on, yeah..."
I'm not equating "The One" to a "Soulmate". You know, I still don't know what a soulmate is so that's why I stay away from using the term. However, the way I've come to understand is that "The One" is this off-the-charts emotional, physical, spiritual, sexual, intellectual, humor, (etc.) compatibile other. So yeah, if you're compatible on levels like that it's quite possible to "feel them all that much".
How else does one get romantically involved with another without compatibility?
Yes, I agree that there's a variance in the degree of it (and even happiness!). But I think that the 90% you have with Person X could be experienced with a Person Y in another way that's just as intense.
Everyone thinks their first love is just IT, right? That's all well and good until you fall in love a second time.
I don't think the phenomenon is as rare as it is special. It's a highly valuable experience. Only I think we cut ourselves out of a lot of it with our standards and ideals.