Tuesday, December 16, 2008

What's Really Good!?!

So I’m about to enter a meet the parents situation in about 10 days or so and I’m anxious.

After pensive examination, I realize that it’s been a long time since I’ve earnestly wanted to be socially liked by someone. After high school, it was more of “I hope I like THEM”. Since then, I honestly can’t think of a time when I wanted to be liked without a resume. In dating, I guess. But even then, because I’m not used to actually liking the guys I go out with, I just assume it’s going to be short-lived anyway. Besides, I was liked enough to get asked out so in my head, I’m already “liked”.

He and I aren’t even a couple. We aren’t committed. We are thousands of miles apart and we just like each other. Neither of us wants to do the long-distance thing either. So how exactly am I supposed to be introduced to his parents??? I’m trying to go with the flow here but I’m this is new for me.

I think he's uncomfortable too because he's supposed to be meeting the Parental Unit and he doesn't want to it to give a false impression of what's going on with me and him. If that's the case, I can understand that. My folks, however, are just satisfying curiousity more than anything else.

I’m a straight up beeyotch to anyone my brother or sister bring home. Why? Because I want to make it clear that I’m not making an effort to like them. Why? Because I don’t have to. Why? Because until I do, I don’t. Why? Because my brother and sister are MINE and your charm isn't going to distract me from screening yo azz.

I’ve never been on the other side. Never thought I’d be in this position in my 20’s. This a lot for no commitment, right? I think I’m going to date other people… or find a job in NYC? That wouldn’t be bad. I have Hometeam up there, so that’s an instant social life. I’d relocate for a job, so the money won’t be in question. Family’s up there. If dude and I are still on and popping, that would be another plus. Fashion Week, instant slices of cheese pizza ANYWHERE at ANYTIME, diverse people... I’m not stupid. I see the benefits. But the dirtiness, cost of living, and the weather is not the business.


I’ve got some thinking to do.

I refuse to move up there for some dude. I am just not that kind of person (or so I think). He can be a bonus, not the reason. Guess I’m still looking for that good reason...

What's "good" though???

I think I'm going to call off the meeting.

...it might be best for both of us (lol).

Forget the visions of pizza in Times Square dancing in your head!

Dog take it! Just how will I satiate my curiousity
if you bail? Since when did you care
about what other people
think? You can't believe your own STORY!!
MY Opinion: Do NOT call it off, a great opportunity/chance to not only get to know the 'rents but view his actions/reactions with and in front of them. Plus fear is never a reason not to do something, right? Sounds a little exciting if you ask me albeit nerve-wracking but such good can come from such a nail-biting situation. And besides if this dude has you nervous enough to want to be accepted by his parents, then he seems worth the chance. That's just my opinion. Do you. It'd be the perfect opportunity for me to come and visit you more often if you move up here though. ;-) -Monsruat

My first thought was "noooo! this is fear getting in the way of a good thing".

the fact that it's "unusual" or doesn't follow the precedent doesn't mean there's something wrong with it. it's unique- like you! i like the idea of "rolling with it"- what have you got to lose? you'll only gain...experience, maybe some new acquaintances, and maybe even a follow-up blog post about how it wasn't what you'd expected.

either way- i totally...TOTALLY feel you on the "weather, cost of living, etc." stuff- BUT, it really is a small price to pay for all you stand to gain. professionally, that is your gold mine of contacts, experiences, and potentially something more...be it with this guy or another.

follow your heart/passions first. because i have an idea of your (professional) passions, i'll just say that NYC would serve you and your "about the business"/grind-mode well.

don't let fear stop you. you know you'd have an extra pair of eyes/ears if you should choose to seek employment there.

i FEELZ you on NOT letting the man be the REASON you'd go (but a great bonus). i'm cool w/that! *high fives*

but oh man...pleeeaze don't pull one of my specialties and throw water on the flame before the fragrance is released! the water is fear and it's no fun sittin' in the stinkin' dark.

(okay- don't know if that made sense, but don't bail. the unknown is the spice of life! you're young and fab and can do whatever you want. in this unique case, just don't let "how it's usually done" throw you off. you're way too fly for the norm anyway! "chew on it" and let us know!)

Mother is that YOU??? I thought you didn't read my blog! Go figure out of all the ones to read (and respond to!) it would be this one, lol

Monsuratti: I hear you, lol. Point taken!

harlemntrlcurlygurl: *sigh* Wow, really? Is that what I'm doing? Well, when you put it THAT way...

ALL: You know I really wish I had read this BEFORE I emailed homeboy. We haven't talked yet but I communicated it as a "suggestion". Maybe I can wiggle my way back? We'll see! I'll keep you posted:o)

And thanks for all the feedback!
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